As parents, you often feel that your children do not perform well in exams despite all the long hours, good grades in practice papers and great remarks from tutors and teachers. The question mark just becomes bigger and bigger the more you think about it. Little do you know, it is the anxiety that is bothering them.
Some children just cannot perform under stress. The thing is, there are times when even adults cannot perform when it’s a test. Your children face this test every day. They are under pressure to make parents, teachers, tutors, family, neighbours and everyone else proud, as our society judges them on just one thing – GRADES!
Here are a few coaching tips that we follow that help our children stay out of the stress zone and thus, leading to them performing well under all circumstances. We would like to share the 5 most important and simple methods in which you can help your kids too:
- Listen to a song that makes you happy
Find a song that makes you and the children happy. Listen to this song as often as you can. Sing it loudly when you are driving the kids around, dance to this song, create your own special moves, give this song a new funny tune and sing it when you feel low, dance to it when life seems a lot to handle. It will just not excite the kids, but you too. Play the song for your kids before they leave home for the exams, this will help them relax their brain muscle as happy thoughts are invoked. The anxiety will take a backseat and the only thing on their mind will be about how they will achieve success!
- Don’t tell the kids to do well
Your children know they have to do well. Trust them. What you need to do is, tell your child firmly, “its an exam, just an exam, the world doesn’t end with this. Even if you fail, we will stand again and we together will cross the road.” When you look into your children’s eye and say these words, your child will feel secure, will feel loved will know that their parents are not judging them on grades. Hence, the zeal to perform, tand to work hard will come from the heart and not because he has to prove himself.
- Stop the last minute revision
The brain needs to rest before they enter the examination hall. If you go for a run before the gym, you will be tired in 15 mins, right? It’s the same with the brain muscle. If you make it work a lot before the exam, it will tire in the exam. Also, encourage your child to enter the examination hall without having many conversations with friends in the corridors. There is no point discussing and competing on the number of revisions before the examination. Every child is different and requires a different kind of learning attitude.
- Get sufficient sleep and food
A sleepless night yes makes you groggy but also, you lose the ability to think. The key point in performing under pressure is to not lose your ability to think and think fast in a given scenario. When we are awake, our brain creates toxins and these toxins are cleansed while we sleep. There are times when we think about work so much, we even dream about it. Children dream about exams too. This sleep time helps them connect closely with what they have studied. It is so important that they get this rest, connect with their learning process and not lose out on their ability to think and function.
- Mental Imagination
This exercise is something that every child needs to go through before the exams start. So here is what we do: Sit your child down in a comfortable chair at a bearable room temperature. Now you both of you close your eyes, Make your children imagine they are entering the examination hall, very nervous, the exam paper is in front of their eyes, they look at the first question and feel nervous, get sweaty palms, they know how to answer it but no doubt takes the former seat. They suddenly forget how to solve it.
- Step 1 – Sit your child down in a comfortable chair at a bearable room temperature and both of you close your eyes. Make your children imagine they are entering the examination hall, very nervous, the exam paper is in front of their eyes, they look at the first question and feel nervous, get sweaty palms, they know how to answer it but no doubt takes the former seat. They suddenly forget how to solve it.
- Step 2 – Make your children imagine they are entering the examination hall very nervous, when they see the xam paper they forget all that they had learnt.
- Step 3 – Pull them out of this nervousness. Explain to your child what needs to be done in this situation they need to remember how to solve this question if it’s too tough to move on to question no 2. Answer all the questions they know and answer the rest. And come to these questions later on. Tell them now they were able to do the questions which were circled. They were easy. These questions had been practised a few times.
- Step 4 – Now imagine getting the results – straight A! Do a little happy song with your eyes closed. Tell your children how happy you are, ask them how they feel. Imagine you guys are now celebrating – doing something you always wanted – a family day. Slowly open your eyes and ask the children to open their eyes too!
This was not meditation, you just showed them a real-life scenario that they will soon face. But with this exercise, they know how to come out of that scenario rather than dwell on it more.
Try these steps for at least a week and you will for sure see a slight difference if not much. If you have further questions do drop us a message.